Almost daily now, I wake up to greet the day in wonder, “Is this really happening?” I’m sure everyone is here right now, too.
Sure enough, it is. And the worst hasn’t happened yet.
It seems like daily more restrictions happen; restaurants offering take out only, cities shut down, guidelines in place for social distancing, and more recently the CDC recommends gatherings to be 10 people or less.
So, in the grand scheme of weddings, what does this all mean?
It depends on your state.
Here in Virginia, the Governor banned gatherings of 50 people or more for the next 8-weeks. That isn’t even event venue restrictions (at this point, I don’t think there are none). Also, you need to reach out to your venue to see where they stand.
1757 Golf Club in Sterling, Virginia, is postponing all events for another 8 weeks while some venues are working with their couples to reduce their guest lists.
Above all, you need to give yourself the time and space to cry/mourn/be angry about this. While emotions should never consume us, it is okay not to be okay right now.
Should I postpone my wedding?
I am not here to tell you what you should or should not do, but I would take everything into account before you make that decision with the health of your guests being a priority. Especially those 60+ years and older. Think: parents, grandparents, aunts, and uncles. Though this virus can kill anyone, this is the age demographic that is affected the most.
Also to take into consideration…
– Can you trim your guest list down to less than 50 people? Your wedding day vendors (especially your photographer!) are counted among the 50 people. This also includes a day-off coordinator and catering staff.
– Do you want to risk the possibility of your wedding being canceled because of isolation? I only say this to take this into account, not to provoke fear. The US is following suit of the hardest affected countries like China and Italy. This is a real possibility.
– Social distancing on the dance floor.
What should I do if I am considering canceling wedding?
First off, you stand to lose a lot of money if you cancel. Just postpone.
Reach out to your venue first to see what later dates they have available and start coordinating with your other vendors to see if they are available and begin the process of rescheduling. It stinks, I totally get it. But the more proactive you are now, the better your chances are of having all the same vendors at your wedding.
Be sure to ask all vendors what their rescheduling/cancelation policies are, However, you should be able to reference this information in the agreements you signed with them.
And get married anyway! Seriously! Just do it and postpone your big celebration for later.
How do I elope?!
It depends on the county and state. But usually, you need to fill out a marriage license application and then you can schedule your wedding through the Justice of the Peace if you go that route. Get with the officiant of your wedding, they should be able to answer these questions.
Do you have other questions? Drop them down below! All couples welcome!